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Post by wenonah4th on Apr 12, 2008 13:50:33 GMT -5
Maybe it goes to show the staying power of something, in that I ended up marrying not the next guy I dated but the one after. (That is, there were three guys I actually dated, and the third one is the one I married.) We were 16 when we started going together. We're 26 now and just had our fourth anniversary.
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Penny Lane
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Post by Penny Lane on Apr 12, 2008 14:37:51 GMT -5
Wow. I'll be 26 in June (unless I'm 26 now, I kind of forgot ;D) and I don't even know how many guys I dated. But I date casually, even if sometimes I forget to tell the other person. It leads to lots of awkward conversations about "this is my friend".."What, I thought I was your boyfriend" "no, I don't believe in labels. we are what we are". ... "WtF" "no, it's a good thing" "So are you cheating on me?" "Huh?"
Anyway, so I've had one semi engagement and one live together experience and one serious boyfriend in high school -- but that's about it. It used to be kind of cute how commitment phobic I am, but now I really appreciate people who have the ability to commit to one person. I think it's so sweet when people find true love -- the kind where you can sit in silence and not talk and know that he's not mad at you, and you can go to the bathroom without waiting until he leaves for work. I know, I'm totally weird like that.
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sarish
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Post by sarish on Apr 13, 2008 10:15:04 GMT -5
I have only dated two people. I am just really picky. The first one cheated on me and the second one I am still dating. We started dating when he was 15 and I had just turned 17. Now I am almost 21 and he is 19. We have been dating for the last 3 and a half years and it has only been the last year that I really got comfortable not talking all the time, going into the bathroom, etc. I think it is because we went on a few weekend trips and a long 10 day trip over the last year together. It takes time to get comfortable around someone, I think.
THe middle school boys gave me a false hope. All the guys at my middle school teased a lot. Sure there were some very good ones, like one of my best friends in middle school and now, but there weren't many.
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Post by janey83 on Apr 16, 2008 16:34:20 GMT -5
I have to say that I'm glad MA was the first to have a serious boyfriend. It goes to show that you don't have to be the most popular/prettiest/outgoing to be with someone. Of course, later in the series, Stacey went on to become a serial dater.
She reminds me of this girl I met in 10th grade....it was something like the 2nd day of school and she had just started 9th grade. So, we're sitting in class, just passing time until the bell, and she went on to tell me that she dated something like 75 boys in 8th grade. Of course, she dated 3 guys in one day at times. Okay, even Stacey wasn't that bad. Funny story, though.
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Post by lionessblack on Apr 17, 2008 12:18:06 GMT -5
Even in middle school I had male friends, but no boyfriends. I've actually never had a boyfriend. I've dated two girls, though, but the first one wasn't until I was 17. I hate it when the BSC gave me false hope about how middle school was going to be. But I do agree with janey83, I like it that Mary Anne was the one with the steady boyfriend for most of the series. You don't have to be sophisticated and a chilly dresser to catch a guy. I did like the progress of Stacey and Ethan. That she met him before she broke up with Robert. At least the relationship had a start in friendship, instead of jumping right into dating. Plus, it was kind of realistic that you won't always meet your next boyfriend right after you broke up with your last one. You might run into them before.
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Post by greer on Apr 18, 2008 1:30:40 GMT -5
^ i definitely agree about the false hope thing. i've had boyfriends since then, but in middle school no boy would even talk to me.
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Post by wenonah4th on Apr 18, 2008 11:32:11 GMT -5
I had (in addition to the boyfriend in 8th grade) male friends all along. I'm something of a Mary Anne, too, but was far from as shy as she is when in junior high. Of course, one of the boys I was friends with then I've known since we were 3, and another (with whom I'm still friends as adults) I didn't meet until the tail end of 8th grade.
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Post by greer on Apr 18, 2008 12:45:00 GMT -5
most of my friends are guys now. ;D funny how things turn out.
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sarish
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Post by sarish on Apr 18, 2008 13:13:13 GMT -5
Most of my friends in middle school and through high school were guys. Now I have more women as friends. I do still have a number of good guy friends though!
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Post by wenonah4th on Apr 18, 2008 16:27:03 GMT -5
Of course, one of the people to whom "best friend" could apply is my brother-in-law, too. Since I'm an only child and wished I had a big brother, and BIL is a bit older, it makes a lot of sense. And his fiancee is a doll & I love her, too.
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Post by greer on Apr 19, 2008 18:29:11 GMT -5
to people afraid of going to the bathroom when guys are over: do you have brothers? i never had any of these kind of fears, but i grew up with a brother in the house so it never seemed like a big deal to me.
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sarish
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Post by sarish on Apr 19, 2008 18:35:49 GMT -5
I do have a brother, but he is 9 years older than me. When I started getting into the whole dating thing, he was already on his own!
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Post by greer on Apr 19, 2008 18:51:15 GMT -5
mine is only 2 and half years older than me, so when we were really little we took baths together and stuff like that.
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Lauren
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Post by Lauren on Apr 19, 2008 18:58:34 GMT -5
Most of my friends in middle school and through high school were guys. Now I have more women as friends. I do still have a number of good guy friends though! I used to have mostly guy friends too. I've always felt more comfortable around guys for the most part having four brothers.
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Post by wenonah4th on Apr 20, 2008 20:04:13 GMT -5
No brothers (no sisters either) unfortuantely. This is why I'm so close to my BIL.
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