Most likely to have an abusive relationship?

[Deleted]

I don't feel comfortable with this poll and thread either.
I'm from an abusive family and had 3 abusive relationships in my past.

[anzuhana]

^ I'm sorry that that happened to you, Jennifer.

[sparklymouse]

For the record, when I made this poll (and replied with my own answers) I wasn't specifying domestic violence or even that they would automatically be the one on the receiving end of it. I didn't ask something like who was most likely to get punched in the face by their boyfriend. I simply meant who could you see as part of an unhealthy relationship, whether it be with boyfriend/girlfriend, same sex friends, family members, co-workers, peers, whatever. I'm sorry if I didn't make that clear enough, but I don't see anything wrong with the question.

[lilafowler]

I'm not sure I see your point. Personally, I don't think being on the receiving end of a physically abusive relationship is somehow worse to discuss than being seriously verbally bullied at school or something.

[greer]

I, too, have been in a physically abusive relationship, and it's definitely not something that you can suss out or predict. That is why it bothered me. It's kind of like asking, who do you think is the most likely to be raped? or something like that. And to say like, "Well, Stacey is slutty/Mallory has low self-esteem, so they probably would" etc... I don't know. It just really bothered me a lot as an abuse survivor.

[sparklymouse]

We have talked in painstakingly minute detail about Mallory/Spaz Girl, Mary Anne and Dawn's relationship, Logan's control issues, Stacey's rank within her NYC friends, the triplets' treatment of Nicky, whether Jack was a bully or just a jerk on the RV trip, etc. The question of was it abusive or not has been raised in pretty much each situation. I made this thread because I think the topic is relevant and can cover such a broad spectrum of events. I don't know why everyone seemed to pinpoint guy on girl violence. That wasn't what I was going for specifically, and again I am sorry I didn't clarify that better in the opening post. But I do think the thread is relevant, and I didn't make it just for shock value.

[greer]

Where is a gif of the horse from Ren and Stimpy when you need it?

Obviously, we've discussed everything here in minute detail. But I don't think it's a stretch to understand that for most, "abusive relationship"=domestic violence or serious verbal abuse within the confines of a sexual relationship.

[cnj]

Apr 17, 2011 6:05:53 GMT -5 greer said:

I really don't like this thread and don't think it is something that should be speculated on.

It can happen to anyone, even those who think they are too smart and too strong for it to happen to them.

Agreed 100000%