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Post by wenonah4th on Sept 11, 2007 17:27:46 GMT -5
Dawnomite, how do you find it easier once you've been married some time not to have the same name as your DH? From my experience working in a pediatrics office I've found it's very confusing when not all the members of a household have the same last name.
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Post by lyricalangel on Sept 11, 2007 17:41:00 GMT -5
I have been married almost a year and I haven't changed my name yet.
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Post by dawnomite on Sept 11, 2007 21:35:09 GMT -5
Same here (I do hyphenate mine, but legally it's still my maiden name because I'm too lazy to change it)
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Post by lyricalangel on Sept 11, 2007 22:51:51 GMT -5
^me too. LOL.
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Post by Kylie90210 on Sept 12, 2007 19:34:20 GMT -5
I would prolly change. I think you sign the form here at the wedding ceremony, if you want to.
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Post by hitzpink on Sept 12, 2007 20:19:50 GMT -5
This is an interesting BSC topic that I hadn't thought about before! I agree with what you guys have said about it just being easier to not change your name back after a divorce.
My sister is married and didn't change her name, and since I'm so used to that from her it's almost become the norm for me. I don't think that I will change my name when I get married. Also, my sister and her husband had a baby before they were married, and she has my sister's last name. I think that's how it should be if the couple isn't married... for some reason it drives me nuts when a girl has a baby and gives it her boyfriend's last name. Anyway, I don't think they've had to deal with very much confusion because nowadays people realize that it's not unheard of for a woman to keep her maiden name.
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Post by wenonah4th on Sept 12, 2007 20:29:01 GMT -5
^ You'd be surprised! Try guessing how to address parents whose names don't match their children's name, being respectful and getting it wrong. It happens. Hyphenated children's names are even worse, at least in my experience because everyone kept filing charts wrong. McNally-LaFong would be just as likely to show up under LaFong as under McNally, and you'd be hunting for it for half an hour to figure things out.
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Post by aln1982 on Sept 12, 2007 23:46:02 GMT -5
^ Agree that it can be confusing and embarrassing. I would definitely change mine. I know my aunt didn't change hers at her 3rd marriage. With the second marriage, she hypenated and with the first, she had changed. It's kind of a joke in our family that she was less certain the marriage would last each time ;D (I guess not all that funny but....)
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Post by sotypical42483 on Sept 13, 2007 13:44:51 GMT -5
I don't think it's a big deal to not change your name. I mean with my sister, she and one daughter have our last name and her husband and the 2nd daughter have his last name. It hasn't created any confusion that I'm aware of, I mean a simple "She has my last name, and she has her dads" settles it quickly. Hyphenated last names just sound like too much work! I guess it is kinda strange that the two sisters have different last names (yes they have the same dad!!!) but I dunno no one has really said anything. Although some people were just sooooo shocked when they got married and my sister didn't change her name. One person even said "then whats the point of getting married?" ugh.
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Post by greer on Sept 14, 2007 1:40:22 GMT -5
yes, all my life i have been shopping for the perfect last name. once i find the guy with the perfect name, wedding bells will ring.
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Post by wenonah4th on Sept 14, 2007 12:40:37 GMT -5
now that's different. Watch, greer will be madly in LUV with someone whose name rhymes with her first name!
I have heard of a Kelly Kelley....
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Post by greer on Sept 14, 2007 20:52:58 GMT -5
hahaha my stepmother's first husband actually did have a last name that rhymed with his first and she changed it to hs anyway.
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Post by aln1982 on Sept 14, 2007 23:40:32 GMT -5
I've always wondered why the man doesn't have to change his name ;D
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Post by dawnomite on Sept 15, 2007 12:21:43 GMT -5
I've always wondered why the man doesn't have to change his name ;D yeah! My sister and her boyfriend both hate their last names (they're not engaged, but she has a promise ring and all that) and they say that when they get married they're going to pick a new last name all together and both change theirs.
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Post by aln1982 on Sept 15, 2007 16:54:05 GMT -5
^ That's an even better idea ;D That way, everyone gets something ;D It could be confusing, though but probably not any more than other situations with names. I think no matter what people do, there is an opportunity for some confusion.
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